Tom Ford: Portrait of a perfectionist, anal-retentive, painfully shy vegan designer

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Tom Ford: Portrait of a perfectionist, anal-retentive, painfully shy vegan designer

According to designer Diane von Furstenberg, Tom Ford is "a cross between a Rolls-Royce and the Marlboro Man". And, as i fan wrote in a YouTube comment, his vocalism sounds like what melted chocolate tastes like.

Tom Ford has come early to rearrange the furniture. He thinks that the already stylish room in the hottest new private club in town, the San Vicente Bungalows, could be fifty-fifty more captivating. And so a team of eight club staff members gets decorated under his direction, pulling a potted constitute from the terrace for ane corner and setting up two dozen glowing bister votive candles.

Ford himself redoes the white flowers, plucking out the roses and leaving in the ranunculus, because he doesn't like mixed blooms. The Spud bed he can do nothing about.

As I enter, the designer is lost in thought, yet fantasising almost redoing the room in his ain preferred palette, draping chocolate brown velvet on the walls.

Everything in life can ever be more than sensual and cute, if you think about it. And Ford is always thinking almost information technology. From the time he was big enough to push furniture, at six years old, he was rearranging information technology in his firm. And giving his female parent critiques on her hair and shoes.

Being Tom Ford is atrocious, in a way. He e'er sees what's wrong. And you tin can't assistance but feel bad for him because you know his flawless flaw detector is e'er on. "I am a hyper-hyper Virgo," he said. "Perfectionist, anal-retentive, supposedly. Seemingly uptight, seemingly aloof. We're definitely homebodies likewise. We love the home." (Or in his example, vi.)

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Ford has been known to go to a moving-picture show in the middle of the twenty-four hours wearing a arrange, and to make hospital corners with other people's slipcovers. "He'due south not afraid to say you need to cut three inches off your pilus or lose weight," said actress Rita Wilson, a friend. Even on vacations in the tropics or river rafting, she added, Ford looks eerily perfect. He used to tailor white T-shirts he bought at La Rinascente in Milan, but at present he wears his own make. "The cut of the sleeve has to be only right if you lot want your biceps to look right," he said. In 2003, as the creative manager of Gucci, he shaved a "G" in a model's pubic hair for an ad, calculation definition with an eyebrow pencil.

Lisa Eisner, who has done jewellery collaborations with Ford and inspired the Alessia character in his 2022 motion-picture show, Nocturnal Animals, said he didn't expect anybody to be as persnickety as he is. "At Graydon Carter's wedding, I drank mode too much and ran out to become to the bathroom and got sick on his shoes – actually good Tom Ford shoes," she recalled. "He just laughed and wiped it off."

And his friends praise his fierce loyalty. Wilson recalled that later her chest cancer diagnosis in 2015, when she had to nowadays at the Tonys feeling vulnerable because "you lot have had part of your body removed," Ford designed her a beautiful dress to habiliment that "made my shape look like a normal shape – and he did it with such sensitivity, generosity and honey."

"I am a hyper-hyper Virgo. Perfectionist, anal-retentive, supposedly." – Tom Ford

Ford did not check his phone during the three hours we spent together. He has perfect posture and lovely Southern manners and stands upwardly when yous return to the table from the bathroom. His voice, every bit i fan wrote in a YouTube comment, sounds like what melted chocolate tastes similar.

Admiring the votives' gold aura, I confessed that I'1000 obsessed with lighting and have been known to unscrew bulbs in restaurant booths or flip switches at parties. "Oh, I do that," Ford said. "At Tower Bar, if you get to my tabular array, the corner table at the back, there are these overhead spots and on mine it's blacked out, because I told them, 'You take to go rid of that spot or I'thou non going to come up hither.'"

'PAINFULLY SHY'

Ford cloaks himself in blackness, planted a black garden in London of black tulips and black calla lilies, contemplates death constantly and plans on designing a black sarcophagus. He is 57 simply for decades has not seemed to get any older. And he'due south wearing Fellow de Jour (one of 39 Tom Ford fragrances), a odor meant to evoke the allure of Cary Grant's neck. I told him that all this makes him a fellow member of my favourite cult: Sexy vampires.

His confront lit up. "A vampire greatcoat was one of the first things I got when I could tell my mother to make something for me, and it was blackness satin on the outside and red satin on the inside," he said. "And I had the vampire teeth, and I had the LP with the music from Night Shadows. I was obsessed, and I wanted to be a vampire because vampires are sexy. They don't age. Talk about seductive. I'm not talking about Nosferatu, you know. But vampires were normally rich, they lived in a fabled house or castle. Wore blackness. Vampires are neat."

Eisner demurred: "Tom smells too adept to be a vampire." She said that those who know Ford just through the famous shots of him with naked models and actresses probably think he'southward "a sexual activity pervert, someone who thinks most sex 24/7. Nope, he's non that guy at all. Very married."

Richard Buckley, Ford'due south husband since 2013, a longtime manner journalist with whom he had a coup de foudre during an elevator ride 32 years ago, confirmed that the facade of gleaming black lacquer is deceiving. "The one misconception I retrieve most people take of Tom is that he is some kind of press whore who loves to have his flick taken," he said. "He is, and always has been, painfully shy. He did acting when he was in his early 20s, and so he is able to 'turn on' for interviews."

The designer takes their six-year-old son Jack – who already prefers black despite drawers filled with colourful clothes – every day to school, where "the mothers have to see Tom Ford looking nifty at eight in the morn while they look similar hell," an amused Eisner noted.

Buckley, seventy, said dryly that their lives are non "all Champagne and caviar," opening up about his nightmarish struggle with the after-effects of radiation for pharynx cancer for which he had surgery in 1989, 3 years afterward the men became involved.

"Tom has seen me through so much, from throat cancer to my brother and mother dying 48 hours apart, to more bouts of pneumonia than I tin can count," Buckley said. Ford made his hubby grey merino wool turtleneck dickeys with keyhole slits for his tracheotomy tube, and, for formal events, a black silk scarf with slits. "Tom is really quite skilful at sewing," Buckley said. (These days, a designer need not be.)

"The one misconception I think most people have of Tom is that he is some kind of press whore who loves to accept his pic taken. He is, and always has been, painfully shy." – Richard Buckley

Recently, it was announced that Ford will succeed von Furstenberg as the head of the Council of Fashion Designers of America, a job he was persuaded to accept by her and Anna Wintour.

"He's a cross between a Rolls-Royce and the Marlboro Human being," von Furstenberg told me. At a time when Donald Trump's America is turning away from the rest of the globe, Ford, who has spent half his life working and studying in Europe, says he will reach out because "if American fashion is going to flourish, information technology has got to drop the idea that information technology'due south American fashion and become global."

"It'south a turbulent time in some ways for way, which has been rightly criticised for its lack of inclusivity, for non having enough women in CEO positions," Wintour said. "These are things Tom cares almost." Indeed, dorsum in the Gucci days, Ford was 1 of the get-go designers to prominently feature African-American and Asian models on the track and in ad campaigns.

Virgil Abloh, creator of Off-White and artistic director of menswear at Louis Vuitton, said that, at the CFDA, Ford will not be "just a boob of the manufacture going with the flow. He has rigour in his work and his personality, and he will bring challenging ideas." Abloh added that Ford's provocative Gucci ads inspired him when he was a teenager in Illinois, into skateboarding, hip-hop and normcore. "I was an outsider," he said, "and he made me believe in style."

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WARHOL NIGHTS

Women'southward Wear Daily sleuthed out the news that Ford was the buyer, for US$18 million (S$24.5 one thousand thousand), of the Paul Rudolph modernist four-story town business firm on 63rd Street in New York Metropolis where Halston in one case lived, hosting some of the wildest parties of the 1970s (Ford's favourite decade) for glitterati like Truman Capote, Jackie Kennedy Onassis and Liza Minnelli.

In Los Angeles, Ford lives in a US$39 1000000 Holmby Hills mansion that is a report in black and white, complete with a Scottish butler named Angus. He besides has belongings in Santa Atomic number 26, New Mexico, where his family moved when he was 11, including a US$75 million ranch, which he'southward selling, that includes a Western picture show boondocks used to shoot Cowboys and Aliens and All the Pretty Horses. Simply "I've kind of lived in that business firm in my listen for many years," Ford said of the Rudolph place. "It has night chocolate-brown glass, it has a garage, it has a legal curb cut." There are 32-foot-high (9.75m) ceilings, skylights galore and a roof garden. And while he loves Los Angeles, he said, "I do desire Jack to know how to put on a jacket, go to a eating place, go to a museum, walk on the street, get to a play."

Ford recalled the nighttime when he was studying art history in his freshman dorm room at New York Academy, feeling disoriented. "I just said, 'Oh my God, please, please, please let something happen to me.' Knock, knock, knock. I went to the door, and there was Ian Falconer, this guy from art history class, in a little bluish blazer, and he said, 'Practise you desire to go to Studio?' And I said, 'Are y'all kidding me, Studio 54?' And he said, 'Yeah, I'g going with some friends.'"

1 was Andy Warhol, who picked them upward in a Cadillac limousine. "It was literally like a picture show; anybody got pushed aside, and nosotros walked right in the door. 'Oh my God, here I am, Studio 54 for the very first fourth dimension' and I drank a lot."

Even back then, he always visualised the sort of cinematic life he has now, with several Warhols on the wall, including a triptych of vulvas and a "Big Electric Chair." He has sold a fright-wig self-portrait of the creative person at Sotheby's for US$32.vi million to pay for his stores in Cathay.

That night at Studio 54 was the first night he ended upwardly with a man, and it "freaked" him out. "And I said to him, 'This was great. but this isn't really what I practice or who I am,' and I went dorsum to my dorm room. I suppose I struggled with it for maybe 6 months. Maybe it was coming from my family background in Texas where, you know, guys are guys. I was nervous about telling my parents, but they're liberal Democrats who met at the University of Texas, and it was pre-AIDS, and they were totally cool with it." (His parents were real estate agents.)

"And I learned after on that it was a plus because people thought if you weren't gay, you couldn't possibly be a proficient designer."

'I Demand MY ARMOUR'

Tom Ford is elegantly dressed, naturally, all in Tom Ford: A blackness double 002 lookout with a removable woven leather band; a white cotton French cuff shirt ("because it's i of the just things a man tin can take, a pair of cuff links"); trousers, plain-weave; the black velvet meridian lapel jacket favoured by Hollywood moguls; and a pair of black cap-toe Chelsea boots.

"I don't feel secure in a slip-on or a tennis shoe," he said. "I think it's the Texan in me. I could never get to a business concern meeting in a tennis shoe. You feel soft, bouncy, not in control. I don't experience good in sweaters either, when I'grand out. I feel soft and mushy and vulnerable. I demand my armour."

What about that time in St Barts when he was nude on the embankment and Wintour happened to walk by? A talented mimic, Ford described the awkward moment: "'Howdy, Richard. Hi, Tom.' And I'm like, 'Oh, hi, Anna!' Oh, I'g naked! It was a wake-up call."

(When I asked Wintour most it, she answered breezily: "Anybody was naked in St Barts in those days. And if it happened, I'm certain Tom looked every bit perfect as he always does.")

"I don't feel secure in a slip-on or a tennis shoe. I think it'southward the Texan in me. I could never go to a business organization meeting in a lawn tennis shoe. You experience soft, bouncy, non in command. I don't experience good in sweaters either, when I'm out. I feel soft and mushy and vulnerable. I need my armour." – Tom Ford

He was drinking a Coke with his grilled artichoke and cauliflower steak, having go vegan, allowing himself the occasional slice of salmon, after watching the documentary What the Health. He cheats with baked goods, jelly beans, Starbursts and Skittles. "Saccharide is my weakness," he said. He weighs himself daily, belongings at 165 pounds (74.8kg), and hasn't had a drinkable for 10 years.

"For several years leading up to stopping drinking – because I drank a lot – on the mornings after, I would have to send flowers to this one and flowers to that one and, 'Oh, I tin't believe I did that' and 'I can't believe I said that,' and I told Richard for at least a year, 'Oh my God, I wish I could merely not drink at all.'

When Ford moved to the country of greenish juice and kind bud, culture shock ensued. "I was at an afternoon party at a friend'due south house, and Martin Short said to me, 'Practise you lot think yous might have a drinking problem?' Considering information technology was lunch and I was but kick back the vodka tonics, and I didn't remember anything of it. Information technology was the first indication I had that, 'Oh, perchance this isn't normal.'" He worked with a therapist for a twelvemonth, tapered off and then one weekend but stopped.

'AN UNSUSTAINABLE Affair'

Ford said he feels enormous empathy for women who get frightened nigh their looks fading. "There'southward cipher more powerful in our culture than a beautiful woman." But "it's an unsustainable thing. I solar day information technology stops. And I accept lived through it with so many female friends, and part of my task is to imagine myself, the female person version of myself, would I want to wear that? Where would I go in it? How would I feel in it?"

He confessed that his pilus "is a little more table salt and pepper than it looks. I mean, Diana Vreeland stayed with blackness hair all the manner until the end. And I've been open about using Botox and fillers, although I can move. Yous have to be very careful with it. I do it about once every eight months. When I get to the dermatologist, I go a manus mirror, I take a white pencil, and I say, 'Right there.' If I could do it myself, I would."

Now that he is a parent (and no longer walking naked around the firm, as he in one case did), does he feel the need to tone down the sexuality of his fashion ads?

"Oh, yes, absolutely," he said, calculation that it may also be because of "the hyper-politically right civilisation. I mean, you can't say annihilation anymore. I was shooting an ad campaign last week, and the guy came up behind the girl and was kissing her on the cervix, and he was holding her wrists from the back and I said, 'No, no, nosotros accept to change that. Put his hand in her hand.' I don't know that any of usa will survive this scrutiny."

His friend and collaborator, photographer Terry Richardson, was banned from Conde Nast and several fashion houses as part of a moving ridge of #MeToo accusations. "Ugh! I love Terry," he said. "And I take to say that I never in my entire life saw any of that with Terry. One of my assistants went out with Terry for two years, and he was the kindest, gentlest person in the relationship."

I wondered nigh the fracases over cultural appropriation. "2 shows ago, I showed the girls with scarves on their caput, which were non durags, and that was non where that idea came from," he said, adding that it came from the 70s, which I know to exist true, because I wore them in college. "And a couple of people wrote that information technology was durags and appropriation. Well, first of all, if you lot're appropriating something, why isn't that neat? You're celebrating information technology."

Later on nosotros divide a lemon meringue pie, the designer dropped me at my hotel in his chauffeured Range Rover. The adjacent day I flew dwelling house. On the aeroplane, I saw a picture show of Priyanka Chopra on Folio Six, the gossip section of The New York Post. She was wearing the same Tom Ford cerise ruched tulle dress that I wore for the interview. With horror, I realised that I had been wearing my velvet corset chugalug backward all night, with the hooks behind and laces in front.

Ford was likewise polite to mention information technology.

By Maureen Dowd © The New York Times

Tom Ford: Portrait of a perfectionist, anal-retentive, painfully shy vegan designer

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